House Rules & Code of Conduct

These rules apply to every event at Maison Tsuri Neko.
Event-specific pages add extra details.

Our values

  • This is a sex-positive, queer-positive, kink-positive space.
  • Respect all bodies, genders, identities, and relationship styles.
  • Kindness, consent, and safety come before play.
  • Nobody is ever owed time, touch, rope, play, or attention.

Age and eligibility

  • All guests must be 18 or older.
  • Bring valid photo ID if you look younger.
  • Hosts may refuse entry or ask someone to leave if they do not aligned with the space.

Arrival and neighbours

  • Arrive in vanilla-friendly clothing. Rope, toys, and outfits come out inside.
  • Use neutral language in the street and at the door.
  • Consider the neighbours, wear a robe or other cover in visible spaces.

House spaces

Main play room (top floor)

  • For louder and more intense scenes, rope, and suspension.
  • Keep talking to a minimum here, upstairs is for focused scenes.
  • After midnight keep the volume lower.

Lounge

  • For softer play, cuddles, relaxed scenes live here.
  • Talking is fine here; but keep louder chats and socialising in the kitchen.

Kitchen

  • Drinks, snacks, and socializing.
  • Please clean as you go.

Quiet room (first floor)

  • No play here. Rest, read, decompress, or have aftercare.

Outdoors

  • In use only when the event, weather, and neighbours allow it.
  • Keep voices low. No explicit kink or sex talk outside.
  • Ash tray available for smokers, please keep away from the doors.

Toilets and bathroom

  • Toilets are on the ground and first floor.
  • A bathroom with shower and bath is available for cleanup and aftercare. Leave it tidy.

Private spaces

  • Bedroom and main study are private.
  • Enter only after a clear invite from a host.

Clothing, nudity and conversation

  • Nudity and sexual play are welcome in the play areas.
  • Keep explicit play and explicit play talk in the lounge and main play room.
  • Use a robe or cover in the hall, kitchen, or at the door.
  • This is a space to unwind. Long chats about work, politics, or daily stress belong elsewhere.
  • Keep most conversation about rope, play, kink, connection, and how to make scenes better for everyone.

Drinks, food, shoes and mats

  • No outdoor shoes inside.
  • If you need indoor shoes, they must be clean and indoor-only. Ask a host first.
  • Keep all drinks out of the play areas and off the tatami.
  • Sealed water bottles are fine in the play room but must stay off the tatami and floor.
  • Keep all other drinks and food in the lounge or kitchen, or drink parking. Clean up crumbs and spills.

Inclusivity, respect and harassment

  • All genders, orientations, bodies, social, and ethnic backgrounds are welcome.
  • We do not accept racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, fatphobia, or other hateful behaviour.
  • Harassment includes, for example:
    • Slurs or offensive comments about identity or body
    • Deliberate misgendering or use of dead names
    • Unwanted sexual attention, touching, or comments
    • Stalking, following, or unwanted messages after a clear no
    • Pressure to drink, use drugs, or play
    • Touching, grabbing, or moving someone else’s stuffies, toys, or gear without clear permission
  • Both tops and bottoms, riggers and models, and doms and subs can cause harm. Everyone is responsible for their own behaviour.
  • If someone asks you to stop something, you stop. No discussion in the moment.
  • Only a clear “yes” is a yes.
  • No, maybe, “I don’t know” and silence all mean no.
  • Check consent for people, toys, rope, furniture, and photos.
  • Ask before you touch anyone or their gear. Never assume.
  • Consent is specific, informed, and can change at any time.
  • Anyone can withdraw consent at any time, verbally or non-verbally. When that happens, activity must stop.

Negotiation and scenes

Before you start a scene, agree on at least:

  • Type of play (rope, impact, sex, D/s, CNC, etc.)
  • Which kinds of touch are in and which are out
  • What, if any, penetration and where
  • Health issues, injuries, medication, and areas to avoid
  • Intensity level, marks, and exposure
  • Safewords or signals, including non-verbal signals
  • What happens if someone feels unwell, triggered, or unsafe
  • What kind of aftercare people want and who gives it

House safewords:

  • Green - keep going
  • Yellow - slow down and check in
  • Red - stop now

You can use your own words or signals if you agree on them in advance.

No one has to explain why they say no or stop. Respect the answer.

Photos, privacy and online sharing

  • Many people are not out. Treat this as a private, confidential space.
  • Do not share names, stories, or scene details outside the event without clear consent from everyone involved.
  • Never take a photo or recording without a clear yes from everyone in the frame, including background bodies and toes.
  • Hidden or “discreet” photos, or “I will blur you later” are not allowed.
  • Ask a host if you want to use lights or other photo gear. Flash is not allowed.
  • Posting on Fetlife, social media, or anywhere online needs fresh, explicit consent from everyone in the image, every time.

Follow any extra photo rules announced for a specific event.

Play, safety and general limits

  • Do not interrupt a scene unless you see an emergency. If you are worried, find a host or safety monitor.
  • All play is at your own risk. Check any gear before use; Maison Tsuri Neko and its hosts are not responsible for equipment failure or injuries from how gear is used.
  • General limits at all events:
    • No blood play
    • No fire play
    • No watersports
  • For other messy play (wax, food, heavy marking, etc.):
    • Ask a host first
    • Protect surfaces with towels or sheets
    • Clean up properly afterwards
  • House rope, toys, and tools will be clearly marked as communal:
    • Treat them with care
    • Clean and dry them in the bathroom after use
    • Put them back where you found them
  • Do not step on or handle someone else’s rope or toys without clear permission.

If you want to explore CNC or more intense dynamics, tell a host in advance so they know your scene is consensual.

Substances and intoxication

  • Consent and altered states do not mix.
  • Maison Tsuri Neko has a zero-tolerance policy for intoxication and play.
  • People who are drunk, high, or otherwise intoxicated cannot tie, be tied, or engage in play here.
  • No illegal drugs at events.
  • At some events light drinking is fine, but drunk or intoxicated play is never allowed.
  • If a host thinks you are not safe to play, you will be asked to stop.
  • Repeated issues can lead to suspension or a ban from events.

Cleanliness, hygiene and care

  • If you see a task, it is yours. Wipe spills, take rubbish to the bin, refill loo roll. You can always ask a host for supplies.
  • Use towels under bodies and messy scenes.
  • Wipe down toys, mats, furniture, and surfaces after use.
  • Leave each space cleaner than you found it.
  • Take care of personal hygiene. Bring extra clothing, deodorant, and period products if you need them.
    • Avoid heavy perfumes and strong scents. Many people are scent-sensitive.
    • Sanitary products and deodorant are available in the toilets if you need them.
  • Aftercare is part of the scene, not a bonus.
    • Make sure partners are warm, grounded, and not left alone if they do not want that.

Staying over and sleepovers

  • Staying the night is often possible.
  • Ask us in advance if you would like a bed or sofa.
  • Share bathrooms and common spaces with respect.
  • In the morning, help with light cleanup. Strip used beds or leave used towels in one place.

Hosts, safety team and reporting concerns

  • Hosts and safety monitors keep an eye on the space and scenes.
  • They may pause or stop a scene, change music, or ask people to move or lower volume.
  • If a safety monitor intervenes, follow their instructions in the moment. You can talk it through together after the scene.
  • The team can warn, remove, suspend, or ban people whose behaviour harms others, ignores consent, or breaks these rules.
  • We cannot promise to prevent every problem, but we will take all reports seriously and act as best we can.
  • If you feel unsafe, triggered, or unsure, talk to a host you trust as soon as you can.

Feedback and concerns

  • We want to keep improving.
  • For anonymous feedback or to report a concern, use the anonymous feedback form.
  • You can also talk to a host in person or contact us after the event.
  • The team will share relevant information internally and decide on next steps.
  • For serious consent issues, we may ask the person who caused harm to leave, and in some cases we may exclude them from future events.